Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peaceand blessings be upon him, said, “Take up good deedsonly as much as you are able, for the best deeds arethose done regularly even if they are few.”Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 4240
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
This blessed month is a time to refresh and renew, to let go of old sins and replace them with healthier habits. As we approach the second third of Ramadan, we see the
masajid slowly emptying out; the same masjid that was fully packed a few days ago seems half empty now. Fewer people seem as enthusiastic about their Quran goals as they were on the very first day of Ramadan …
As the month goes on, we seem to be running out of
steam. Given how precious and limited these days are,
shouldn’t we be taking advantage of every moment?
In all honesty, I’m not.
So here I am, sharing some introspection about how to maintain and accomplish sustainable goals in this incredible month. I’ve tried to focus on deeds that look
small – but could have huge rewards in the future. I’ve split these deeds into two halves: good habits to build, and bad habits to break.
Firstly, habits to build…
Set a few, realistic goals!
You know your own capabilities more than anyone else does. There is no point in setting goals that look very attractive but are unattainable. Bear in mind that a huge number of small goals have the same effect! If you’ve already determined what you want to achieve before Ramadan, wonderful. Now it’s to spend some time with yourself and honestly
review the past ten days. If you haven’t made a plan, it’s not too late. Start now and your future self will thank you for it. Plus the feeling of ticking a task off a list is absolutely beautiful.
Remember your athkar!
We often neglect this amazing treasure. It may look small, but is it really?
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Prophet (ﷺ)
“Allah the Almighty said: I am as My servant thinks Iam. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. Ifhe makes mention of Me to himself, I makemention of him to Myself; and if he makes mentionof Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in anassembly better than it. And if he draws near to Mean arm’s length, I draw near to him a cubit, and if hedraws near to Me a cubit, I draw near to him afathom. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to himat speed.”
(related by al-Buhkari, Muslim, at-Tirmidhi and
Needless to say, it’s impossible to achieve anything without Allah’s will. Ask Him to grant you success and to make your worship easier.
“And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad],concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to theinvocation of the supplicant when he calls uponMe. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] andbelieve in Me that they may be [rightly] guided.” (2:186)
Now, habits to break…
Put your ego aside
We’ve all wronged people throughout the year. Hearts are softer this month, forgive and ask others to forgive you. Tell the people you care about that you regret your actions and you value the relationship. Chances are, they’ll accept your apology. Let go of grudges. They’re not worth it. We all know the Prophet’s (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) famous saying:
“Have mercy on those on the earth, and the Onein heaven will have mercy on you.” [Tirmidhi].
Take care of yourself
Say goodbye to poor eating and sleeping habits.You don’t need them this month.
We’ve discussed eating healthy and staying hydrated in the past. The truth is, you won’t be able to worship if you’re weak and tired.
Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as
“A strong believer is better and is more lovable toAllah than a weak believer…”(Sahih Muslim 2664)
Watch what you say
No backbiting, complaining or purposeless talk in Ramadan. None of it. We do plenty of that all year. Your goals should keep you so busy that you shouldn’t have time for this. 😉
Hudhaifah (عنه اﷲ رضي) narrated that the
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“A backbiter will not enter Paradise.”[Bukhari (6056) and Muslim (105)]
These reminders are firstly for myself before they are for everyone else. I’m in no position to advise anyone.
That’s all from me. I leave the rest to you.
May Allah allow us to change for the better this
تقبل الله منا ومنكم
Raweeha Abdul Rab