Soon after the boycott on Muslims had come to an end, the Prophet ‘sصلى الله عليه وسلم uncle, Abu Talib fell ill. He was his supporter and caretaker after his father and grandfather passed away.
Although he was a non Muslim, the Prophet peace be upon him loved him. Abu Talib, on the other hand loved his nephew like his own son, in fact even more. Inspite of the warnings that the Quraysh had given him to stop the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم from preaching, he stood by the Prophet and supported him.
This relationship between Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and his uncle who was a non Muslim, has many lessons to learn from. These says when people embrace Islam, they have non Muslim family and friends, whatever your religion might be, you still are family and friends, that remains the same. And one must remember, that the best way of showing others the beauty of of Islam is by your good conduct . If you read through the biography of the Prophet, many tribes accepted Islam, just by looking at character of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم.
Even though Abu Talib loved his nephew so much, he did not accept Islam till his last breath, for guidance is from Allah alone. The Prophet was deeply saddened by his death.
On the authority of Al-Musaiyab, when Abu Talib was on the death bed, the Prophet peace be upon him entered the room where he saw Abu Jahl and ‘Abdullah bin Abi Omaiyah. He requested his uncle:
“My uncle, you just make a profession that there is no true god but Allâh, and I will bear testimony before Allâh (of your being a believer)“.
Abu Jahl and ‘Abdullah bin Abi Omaiyah (leaders of Quraysh) addressing him said: “Abu Talib, would you abandon the religion of ‘Abdul-Muttalib?” The Messenger of Allâh peace be upon him constantly requested him (to accept his offer), and (on the other hand) was repeated the same statement (of Abu Jahl and ‘Abdullah bin Abi Omaiyah) — till Abu Talib gave his final decision and he stuck to the religion of ‘Abdul-Muttalib and refused to profess that there is no true god but Allâh. Upon this the Messenger of Allâh peace be upon him remarked:
“By Allâh, I will persistently beg pardon for you till I am forbidden to do so (by Allâh)“.
It was then that Allâh, the Magnificent and Glorious revealed this verse:
“It is not (proper) for the Prophet peace be upon him and those who believe to ask Allâh’s forgiveness for the Mushrikûn (polytheists, idolaters, pagans, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allâh) even though they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire (because they died in a state of disbelief).”[9:113]
The persecution against the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and his companions worsened day by day after the death of his uncle, who when he was alive was the leader of the clan, so the Non Muslims of Makkah could not do much harm to the Prophet peace be upon him since he was the nephew of the leader.
Not just that, two months and three days after his uncle’s death, the mother of the believers, his wife, his companion, his best friend, and the mother of his children, Khadijah رضي الله عنها passed away.
He was married to Khadijah رضي الله عنها for twenty five years. She was sixty five years old at the time of her death and the prophet peace be upon him was fifty. He deeply mourned over her death, and once he replied in an honest burst of tender emotions:
“She believed in me when none else did. She embraced Islam when people disbelieved me. And she helped and comforted me in her person and wealth when there was none else to lend me a helping hand. I had children from her only.” (Musnad Imam Ahmad)
Abu Hurairah reported that Gabriel came to Allâh’s Messenger and said: “Allâh’s Messenger, lo, Khadijah is coming to you with a vessel of seasoned food or drink. When she comes to you, offer her greetings from her Lord, and give her glad tidings of a palace of jewels in Paradise where there is no noise and no toil.” (Sahih AlBukhari)
He loved Khadijah رضي الله عنها so much so that, he would mention her qualities and praise her and weep, long after she had passed away. And when a sheep was slaughtered, he would send some of it to her friends.
Abu Talib and Khadijah passed away three years before the migration of the Prophet to Madinah.
About one month after the death of Khadijah, the Prophet married Saudah bint Zam’ah. Saudah was previously married to her cousin, both of them were among the early Muslims who had migrated to Abbysinia. Her husband died, after returning to Makkah.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم married her in the month of Shawwal after her mourning period was over.