Was that supposed to be a secret?!



Many a times, a friend trusts us with something, and forgets to add in the end the famous line when they share secrets “Shhh..promise me you won’t tell this to any one.” “Promise.”

Or there are even times, when she tells you something and walks away. Now, you go tell that to someone (and we know how news spread like wild-fire!), the next day, the whole place is buzzing with the news and she confronts you regarding that.

“But you did not tell me that was a secret!” 

Well then, you know what? That was a secret, even if it didn’t seem surreptitious., even if she didn’t add ‘Shh..it’s a secret’ in the end of your conversation.

It is a contract between you and your friend, its a contract by an indication (إشارة).

“.عن جابر بن عبد الله قال، قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم قال :” إذا حدث الرجل ثم التفت فهي أمانة

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah: “The Prophet (ﷺ) said: When a man tells something and then departs, it is a trust.”
(Sunan Abu Dawud,  Kitaab AlAdab)

There are three types of contracts,
1. By utterance/declaration. (القول)
2. By actions. (الفعل)
3. By an indication. (الإشارة)

And these contracts, in whichever form it might be, should be fully fulfilled.
Allah says; ” يأيها الذين آمنوا أوفوا بالعقود”  (O you have believed! Fulfill [all] contracts.) {Surah Maidah:  1}

These might seem invalid matters, but it is not. Ibn AlArabi in his book القبس – شرح مؤطأ إمام مالك says, “the greatest contracts/agreements in Islam are those which Allah has ordered to be fulfilled”.
And if your friend binds you by any of these contracts, you are bound to fulfill them. Like something your friend mentions to you, by default it is a secret, unless she tells you otherwise, or it is a matter that everyone knows already or is something that people ought to know (like beneficial knowledge).

So, the next time when you are about to tell friend B what friend A told you, think twice!

– Rafeef Bint AbdulMannan

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